TRAUMA ARCHITECTURE™
Healing doesn’t fail because you’re broken.
It fails when the foundation was never built.
Healing didn’t fail you.
It was introduced...
before your nervous system
was safe enough to change.
Let me guess.
You did the therapy.
You did the breathwork.
You did the somatics.
You journaled. You reflected. You processed.
You read the books. Took the supplements. Tried to regulate.
And instead of relief?
You got worse.
More dysregulated.
More exhausted.
More detached.
More ashamed for even asking why it wasn’t working.
And somewhere along the way, you started wondering:
“What in the actual fuck is wrong with me?”
Well sunshine,
here’s the truth no one said out loud...
Nothing.
If healing made you
feel worse...
this is WHY.
You didn’t fail healing, sunshine!
Healing was
mis-sequenced.
And your nervous system wasn’t broken.
It was protecting you
from collapse.
And until you
understand why…
Everything else
will keep feeling like
another way you’re
failing at being human.
Here's the part...
NO. ONE. EVER.
EXPLAINED.
If your trauma was:
• chronic
• emotional
• relational
• unpredictable
• tied to people you depended on
your nervous system didn’t learn stress.
It learned...
THREAT
AS THE
BASELINE.
Not sometimes.
Not occasionally.
Baseline.
So when healing asked you to:
Relax.
Drop in.
Feel more.
Stay present.
Your body said...
FUCK NO.
NOT LIKE THIS.
Not because you’re difficult.
Not because you’re resistant.
Because once…
that would have been unsafe.
Your nervous system isn’t dramatic.
It’s precise.
Why effort didn't equal progress
Most healing tools quietly assume something they never say out loud.
They assume your system already has:
• baseline safety
• predictable regulation
• enough capacity to tolerate change
Chronic emotional abuse removes those conditions structurally.
So when healing showed up too early, your body experienced it as:
DEMAND.
Not support.
Which explains why:
• therapy felt exhausting
• breathwork triggered panic
• somatics led to dissociation
• progress never stuck
• trying harder made things worse
The tools weren't bad.
They were just introduced
before the foundation existed.
This is.
THE TRAUMA FOUNDATION
GAP™
It’s bridging the gap between:
What healing tools assume
is already there
and
What chronic emotional abuse
(C-PTSD) actually leaves behind
Most people never hear about this gap.
So they do the only thing that makes sense.
They blame themselves.
Over.
And over.
And over.
What this guide actually is
The Trauma Foundation Gap™
is an educational nervous-system guide that explains:
• why healing backfired
• why your body shut things down
• why nothing stuck
• why it was never a personal failure
It is:
Not a program.
Not a protocol.
Not a “do these 7 things” situation.
There is nothing to apply.
Nothing to practice.
Nothing to get right.
Just an explanation that finally
fits your lived experience.
Turns out…
understanding is powerful.
Not because it fixes you.
But because it removes the pressure
that’s been keeping everything stuck.
Be Honest.
This Was Made For You If...
• your trauma was emotional, not just circumstantial
• it lasted years, not moments
• you’re insightful but still dysregulated
• you’ve been labeled “complex” or “resistant”
• healing felt like another performance
• your body never caught up to your understanding
If you’ve ever thought:
“Why does everyone else seem to move forward except me?”
This explains why.
What This Is
The Trauma Foundation Gap™
is a digital educational resource focused on nervous system understanding and trauma-informed self-regulation.
Inside, you’ll learn:
-
why intensity often backfires for chronic survivors
-
why “just breathe” didn’t work
-
why your body shut things down
-
why nothing stuck, even when you did everything “right”
This is not about forcing healing.
It’s about structural clarity,
so healing stops feeling like a fight.
What This Is Not
This product is educational only.
It does not provide medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice, and it is not a substitute
for professional care.
It does not diagnose, treat, or cure any condition.
It exists to give you language, clarity, and understanding, so you can make informed,
self-honoring choices moving forward.
About Brittney
Founder of OUR NEURO HAVEN + TRAUMA ARCHITECTURE™
Hi, I’m Brittney!
My nervous system didn’t start safe.
It started in chaos.
My mother was paralyzed from the waist down the moment she gave birth to me.
And my father? Too drunk to drive me home from the hospital.
So no.
My body didn’t wire for rest.
It wired for survival.
I grew up inside chronic emotional abuse (C-PTSD).
Not a bad day.
Not a hard childhood.
But decades of nervous system altering stress that shaped how my brain, biology, and stress responses developed.
For over 30 years, I searched for relief.
Doctors. Diagnoses. Pills. Protocols.
Temperature Allergies. Nervous System Collapse.
Hospitalizations. Near Death Experiences.
A trauma event list over 250 pages long...
not even the stories, just the events.
Nothing worked.
Not because I was broken but because no one was looking at the foundation.
Here’s the part no one ever talks about:
You are an electrical being.
Your brain runs on ions, sodium, magnesium, oxygen and on hormones that communicate with your neurons.
When you grow up in emotional danger, your neurocircuitry adapts to survive, not to feel safe, joyful, or connected.
So no sweetie, supplements didn’t fail you.
SSRIs didn’t “fix” you.
And you are not defective.
You’re trying to run advanced software on a system that never had a stable foundation.
You see, I’m an architect by training, with a dual architecture degrees from Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute (RPI), alongside minors in civil engineering, lighting, and psychology.
I spent over a decade designing complex structures, work that was published, recognized, and often described as "ahead of its time".
And then one day…
EVERYTHING.
CHANGED.
I wasn’t in a doctor’s office.
I wasn’t in therapy.
I wasn’t searching for another answer.
I was on a job site.
Standing there, reviewing structural framing details, load paths, connections, stress points, foundations... the same work I had done for years designing and restoring multi-million dollar homes, hotels, restaurants, and a multitude of high end commercial spaces.
And a thought stopped me cold:
"If buildings and bridges can’t be built or restored without a stable foundation… WHY was no one asking about mine?"
Why was no one asking about my body’s structure?
My nervous system load?
My biological capacity to hold stress?
That was the moment everything clicked.
No structure can rise,
or be repaired,
or rebuilt without a stable...
FOUNDATION.
Not buildings.
Not bridges.
Not bodies.
I realized I had been trying to “heal” on a foundation that was never structurally supported to begin with.
So I turned my architectural training inward.
I immersed myself in neuroscience, trauma physiology, and nervous system biology, herbal medicine, ancient practices, and studying from the same bodies of research and literature cited from institutions like Harvard, MIT, Yale, Stanford, Columbia, Berkeley, UCLA, Oxford, NIH, Toronto, and leading research centers in London, etc.
Not casually.
Not selectively.
Systematically.
I read what neuroscience students are required to read to graduate from Harvard, MIT, and Yale and I followed emerging studies as they were published.
And I continue to scan new research daily.
I track how stress, trauma, inflammation, hormones, minerals, oxygen, and electrical signaling interact inside the nervous system over time under the newest scientific discoveries.
Because chronic emotional abuse doesn’t create a mindset problem.
It creates a systems problem.
So I stopped asking, “What’s wrong with me?”
And I started asking, “What was never structurally supported?”
That’s when healing finally began.
This is not a wellness page.
This is a root-cause recovery space.
I’m a mother of two beautiful daughters.
I’m no contact with my entire biological family, on both sides, because safety comes first.
And I walked away from a very successful architectural design career because I refused to keep building beautiful structures while my own bodies structure was collapsing.
I was put on this earth to endure what I endured, not because it was fair, but because it gave me the lived knowledge, the technical framework, and the language to help others find their way out.
Here, we rebuild from the ground up:
Nervous system first.
Biology first.
Safety first.
If that scares you, this space isn’t for you, and that’s okay.
But if something in your body just exhaled…
Welcome sunshine.
You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.
xo,
Brittney Radz Spannbauer
Founder + CEO , Our Neuro Haven + Trauma Architecture™
Survivor. Educator. Trauma Foundation Architect.
Address
122 Dairy Farm Road
North Carolina, 28115
Phone
704.312.0842
Connect
© 2025 Our Neuro Haven LLC. All rights reserved.